H E A R T B R E A K I S R E A L ! ! !
This is by no means an exhaustive list and of course different methods work for different people but here are 3 things to do to help get over heartbreak, (watch out for part 2 of this list coming soon) . I’m sure these will work for anybody if put to the test:
- Spend time in the presence of God
Sounds cliché right? But it really is the best way. Time doesn’t heal people, God does. How do I know that? Well, because there are ladies who are still bitter about what a man did to them 5 or 10 years later! They would still talk about the situation with so much offence and bitterness, which is clear to see that time may have passed by, but in their heart, they aren’t all the way over it. They may have grown chronologically but emotionally they are still trapped in the pain of that situation. Emotional healing takes time, but it’s time taken WITH God not away from Him. It’s so painful and can be so deep that only God can reach that place in your heart. It takes discipline not to just go and pick up someone else who is giving you the attention you crave but don’t do the rebound thing or try to distract yourself or fill the void with random things, go to God and share your heart with Him… He will heal you and make you whole again.
- Stop being a Stalker!
Yep, I said it! We’ve all been there… or maybe just me (lol). But it’s easy to keep the emotional attachment alive by following his movements online. It’s a false sense of security we thrive off of when we check and find out there’s no-one new on the scene so maybe that means he’s hurting or still thinking about me too. It makes us feel better when there’s a lovely new status like ‘take care of those you love’ and we take it as an indirect, by force, because he’s definitely talking about us, I mean surely there’s no one else in his life he could be referring to. And even if he is indirecting you, you don’t need to know! Seeing it will just keep you stagnant as opposed to healing from it and moving forward; your emotions will continually be in yo-yo motion because with each post you will feel happy one minute then sad the next. Unfollow, unsubscribe, block and the like – protect your heart.
P.S. please tell your faithful spies that you will no longer need their services (lol, we all have those faithful friends). But communicate your heart with them and let them know that you don’t what to be fed information on where he went, what he did and who he did it with anymore – this is another yo-yo situation. Our friends really do mean well and think they are helping but constantly hearing about him won’t help you get over it. Again, it requires discipline to do what’s best, even when it feels so good to hear the latest compliment he paid you in your absence. #LeSigh
You will know when you are able to hear or see things again because what you hear or see will not move you/break your heart all over again.
- Be patient with yourself
Getting over heartbreak can take time. If you really felt that deeply for someone, the feelings for them and the ideas you had of a future together ‘happily ever after’ do not just vanish overnight, so be patient with yourself. Don’t beat yourself up wondering why you still have trust issues or why you’re not quite ready to move onto another relationship yet, like your ex has done, or why so-and-so was able to forget their ex in a month and it’s been three months now and you still cry sometimes – everyone has a different pace, the intensity of each relationship is different, people manage their emotions differently and people can also mask how they are really feeling, so don’t compare your process to another’s – it’s not the same, you’re not the same and that’s okay. As long as you are working at it, looking forward and making progress keep going. Healing and wholeness is your portion, you’ll get there.
While writing this, other helpful keys come to mind… like reminding yourself of your value,… but hey watch out for part 2 😉
But for now we’ll leave it there. Please remember God has your best interests at heart – if you put in the work now you’re future self will thank you for it; you’ll look back in a few years’ time and, being better off, wonder why it was such a thing.
Lots of love x
Dana Grant is an LV31 team leader and also runs Emotional Development Mentoring Where sessions are in place for emotional healing and freedom
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